Control – What do you have control over?

Just control yourself. Control your emotions. It’s out of your control. You can’t control that!

Have you heard those lines? I certainly have.

In these chaotic and somewhat crazy times we are currently in, conscious responses to these statements become even more relevant.

There’s not much in this world that we have rightful control over. As parents, as teachers & as guardians, we have some ‘control’ over the supervision of our children & those in our care. As reasonable & honourable people, we haven’t got much control over life itself.

I have been a person who tried to control most of my surroundings and my day-to-day life. I have tried to control everything to make my life more ‘comfortable’ and less unpredictable. In some cases, it worked for a while. I’d decide if I couldn’t control the situation or the behaviour of others, I’d move on instead of learning how to accept & adapt. In some cases, creating space worked - it gave me a sense of being in control, but as time passed, and I changed – it stopped working as an effective strategy. Once I realized that my tactics weren’t working anymore, I’d be forced to reconcile my feelings & why I wanted to run instead of accepting  & letting go.

I kept trying to control the actions of others to suit my idea of what was right. Innocently, most of the time – convincing or working the situation to my advantage to get my needs met.

As time passed, frustration & a lack of feeling accomplished stirred my motivation & a deeper need for understanding & purpose. I did more & more of my inner work, and I began to realize that I can’t control life or others. I had to turn my focus inward and work on the inner landscape of who I was and what I wanted to create in my life. (This is an ongoing process)!

As I continually check myself, my motivations & my actions in this process, I have realized that the only thing/person I truly have control over is myself and my responses and reactions.

I can’t change most things in life. I love sunny & hot days, but I can’t control the weather. I want everyone to have a beautiful home that is paid off. I want people to be healthy & happy & living their best lives, but I do not know the journey of other people – I don’t know their Soul Contracts in this life. I want people in abusive relationships to leave & be safe. I want people to enjoy the abundance of this world. I want all people to respect each other & get along or move along. I want the vulnerable to be taken care of by those in a position to do so, until they are mature enough to do it themselves. I want helping others to be the way of life.

There are so many things that I believe can make this a better world. What I am leaning into and learning daily is that I need to do my part in creating that higher evolving, higher frequency place by doing what I can within myself to be a better person.

Again, what can I control? What can you control?

Are you ready to move the focus inward to excavate your hidden talents, gifts and gold? You stepping into & becoming your best, most authentic self is truly what you can control. It’s time.